INSIGHTS
INCENTIVES
COMFORT
Lynn is my name and although it seems to have taken quite a long time, I am feeling true comfort in my life, not just physically, because fortunately, I have had that all my life -- but comfort in my thoughts. These stories convey my progress but surprisingly, comfort was not the goal for any of these experiences – it was instead, a gift for my steps taken.
In my day-to-day living, I have been able to have thoughts come to me that improve my way of life – little things that change the way I do things or the way I arrange things. Emotions sometimes got in my way but, although exposing them was ‘yucky’ at times, ridding of them was very magical in the end.
As you read my words and listen to my voice, may the deeper message of each story find its place within you.
Blurbs
Information these days comes to me from many sources, and they come from countries from around the world. Likely instantaneously. But I am finding they are short quips that do trigger your interest for more, but the more does not appear. It seems to be someone’s perspective only. So, this story is entitled: Blurbs. Sometimes I see a blurb on the internet and it goes right to my heart. Or the opposite of it, igniting me to feel upset. I call these incidences a ‘shot in the dark’, rather than a knowing of the whys and the wherefores. I have discovered that when just a blurb comes out, it has not provided me with the beginning or the end, just the middle. I am annoyed that the whole story has not been told. I am missing something important along the way. It seems like that is becoming more acceptable in the information we are receiving now. Are they appealing to my emotions instead of my thoughts? Why is this happening and causing negativity in my world and the world in general? Comfort is a feeling I prefer, and it is not comfortable to have my emotions coming forth for something I cannot do anything about. It is not honouring the story with just a ‘shot in the dark’ either. I am not a fragment of myself and my reason for living. I am a whole lifetime of learning. And yes, I have accumulated emotions along the way, but triggering them to surface in the negative stance doesn’t sit well with me. I would like to rid of my emotions in a more positive fashion. Looking at my whole life make sense, provides comfort to me and acceptance of all the ups and downs. It literally calms me down when I reflect on my life previously and find a correlation. I have also found that comparisons between myself and others are not helping my comfort zone either, so I like to avoid them. There is a beautiful feeling when I accept something new in my life. That is the idea of life – to learn and accept each of my steps. It means that whatever challenges me or welcomes me has a before, a now and an after to it. So, if I am willing to look back at my ‘before’, what do I see that correlates with what I am learning now. There is likely something, even if it is small that means I need to learn more about it, because otherwise it would not be happening now. So, I am doing my best to be thankful for each incident that I notice needs attention. Each lifetime I, as a soul, write the story I desire to live, based on my previous lifetimes. So even in each lifetime I improve in my understanding of myself. Nothing is segregated perse. The old saying seems correct, ‘we learn by our mistakes’. My comfort zone improves with each time I learn, and I feel more honouring of myself. No more ‘blurbs’ or ‘shots in the dark’ for me. Three parts to each story please – a beginning, a middle and an end – That is what provides comfort! #55-Comfort-001
Days of the Week
Hidden gems within us! An interesting topic. What is hidden within us – maybe thoughts, maybe desires or maybe many, many emotions that trigger those thoughts and desires. Well, lo and behold – it seems like we are quite often feeling what is attached to words and common aspects of life. Have I ever wondered what names are able to trigger my emotions or titles of something, like the Days of the Week? No, I hadn’t, but that is the title of this story. Seems strange that I would have a definite feeling or attitude towards the names of the days themselves. But it is true. I ask myself why? Well, it all has to do with my emotions hidden within me, apparently. Those hidden emotions are starting to let themselves be noticed. That is because the earth itself is doing the same thing. No more hidden aspects on the earth, with creatures and trees and plants and especially humans. Volcanoes erupt and earthquakes take place to assist the earth to expose the hidden aspects. It’s an interesting world we live in right now. So, what does that mean to me? In some cases, physical movement helps rid of emotions, but that is only a smidge in comparison to what I have within me. I have been accumulating them for several lifetimes now and I am the one to rid of them at long last. I am able to write about them and then burn it in the kitchen sink. Another idea is to simply talk about them. Once they are out in the open, they don’t seem to be so devastating. The result of either of these methods is the emotion is gone or lowered somewhat and more comfort in my bodies takes place. There is energy in words of course. After all, everything is energy. Society, over many, many years, has made certain we all have a ‘feeling’ about the days of the week, so I am using them as an example. What is my feeling for the days of the week? The days that feel best to me are Sunday and Thursday. They are the days I awaken to a feeling of freedom to be more of me and I definitely enjoy that kind of day – nothing new or exciting perse, but days that I am just able to be me and with more timing rather than time. But this is how I feel about each day of the week. • Monday feels like a day to ‘start’ something new. • Tuesday is about getting the job done. • Wednesday is a day to try something new. • Thursday is a healing day. • Friday is a get up and at it kind of day. • Saturday is laundry and cleaning day. • Sunday is a calming kind of day. I haven’t noticed more emotional exposure on certain days in particular. I remind myself that any emotions that come from me are mine and come to light thanks to someone else, and not because of someone or something else. Comfort is my goal. #55-Comfort-002
Decision Making
Life is quite often full of questions that deserve answers, ideas that need implementation, and of course great big decisions of how to live in this world of ours comfortably. Some are easy and once made, the next time something similar happens, it is easy to do the same thing. I guess in some ways, the simple ones become habits and rather automatic. This story is about Decision Making. Decision making is an interesting concept for me personally. I want to weigh the pros and cons, how I feel and how the other people involved might feel and whether it could be detrimental in any way or will it produce a smile on my face. Sometimes I ask for someone’s advice and then do the weighing back and forth once again. Also, I found that if someone asks me a question, out of the blue, I am liable to answer yes immediately, but if I gave it a bit of thought at all, my answer likely would have been no. Am I good at instant decision making? I would say not, other than the easy day to day ones like when to eat and when to sleep and such. What is a decision anyway? Is it a question of yes or no, or do I reach out for more? Will it affect just me, or does it affect others? Is this life-changing or will it have a minimal impact on my life? I am coming to understand that my decisions need to provide me with a sense of comfort. It’s important to me to feel comfortable in the implementation of whatever decision I make. Sometimes my decisions don’t work out too well and I experience frustration. Other times, I find my decisions work out really well and then I’m quite happy. Either way, the decision allowed emotion – frustration or happiness – to surface. Interesting! Perhaps my inability to make some decisions comfortably is wrapped in emotional garbage. Decisions that I was required to make as I was growing up came to me easily because ‘respect’ was my criteria. Respect for myself in all my bodies. When making decisions as an adult, especially those that involve others, I have a tendency to put them first. Of course, when I do this, I’m uncomfortable and eventually, I’ll change my decision. A big learning! I have also found out that one of my biggest mistakes was that I cared too much about what others thought. How do I really know what others are thinking? I don’t of course. Which leads me right back to the state of comfort I need from the results of my decision. I found that the length of time it takes to make a decision can affect my physical health. Emotions become involved and my thoughts get all twisted about. Standing up for myself and speaking on behalf of myself is a much better plan. What I have learned about decision making, is that I need to make sure that it is good for me, respectful for me and my thoughts, my finances and my emotions, and that I can maintain comfort throughout the process of making that something happen. I need to think of myself first because I am important. Do I need an explanation for others about the decisions I make? No, I do not! Once again, respect for me is paramount. #55-Comfort-003